Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Podcast Episodes

March 21, 2025

Can Friends Discuss Anxious Parenting Without Getting Defensive?

What happens when you try to get your family members or friends to join you in shifting away from anxious parenting patterns? One listener tried, and got the cold shoulder from other moms. In this episode, Ed, Lynn and Robin ...

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March 14, 2025

In Session: We’ve Made Great Strides With Our Son’s Social Anxiety… W…

In this In Session episode, Lynn talks to Kaitlin, mom to a 7 year old boy with social anxiety and selective mutism. While her son has made impressive gains over the last year, Kaitlin feels stuck when it comes to her son’s r...

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March 7, 2025

A Success Story: Noah's Journey Of Managing Anxiety From Age 11 to 24

In this episode, Lynn & Ed are joined by Noah Cummings who was featured with Lynn in the documentary Anxious Nation. Noah and Lynn have known each other for (gulp!) 13 years. Noah is open and articulate about doing what works...

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Feb. 28, 2025

The Skill of Differentiation and the Importance of Asking "How" Quest…

Lynn was lucky to learn about the skill of differentiation from Michael Yapko (be sure to listen to our Season 6 conversation with Michael!) and in this episode she walks us through the use of HOW questions to help anxious fa...

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Feb. 21, 2025

The Three P's: Permanence, Postive Expectancy and Placebo

Our words matter as they often convey to our children how to approach the setbacks and challenges of life. In this episode Lynn and Ed dive into three language patterns, one to minimize and two to enhance: permanence, positiv...

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Feb. 14, 2025

The #1 Skill for Handling Social Anxiety & A Listener's Question On H…

Listeners have been asking for more discussion on the skills needed to help social anxiety, so we review this to start; then Lynn answers a listener question about a worrier, the bottomless well of questions, and how a school...

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Feb. 7, 2025

Your Anxious Kid Calls You From School To Be Picked Up. What Should Y…

Getting an anxious child into school is sometimes an (exhausting) victory. But when they then want to be picked up, parents are often hit with doubt, guilt, and confusion about when and HOW to respond to pleas and demands. In...

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Feb. 1, 2025

Listener Question: We Have Nightly Meltdowns Around Homework. Help!

In this episode, a listener is struggling with her children’s homework meltdowns. She’s exhausted by the nightly distress and has tried to be patient, reassuring, firm…nothing is working and she’s at a loss. What to do? WE'VE...

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Jan. 24, 2025

Helping Your ADHD Kid with Social Struggles: A New Conversation with …

Ryan Wexelblatt, ADHD expert and founder of ADHD Dude, is back to talk about his social anxiety groups for boys with ADHD, the social skills these guys need, and how pervasive misinformation about ADHD is hurting families. WE...

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Jan. 17, 2025

Real Talk with ADHD Expert Ryan Wexelblatt: Anxiety, ADHD and the Mes…

In this episode we are joined by Ryan Wexelblatt, an ADHD expert known for his concrete and skill-based approach to helping parents via his ADHD Dude content on YouTube. Individual therapy for kids with ADHD is not recommende...

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Jan. 10, 2025

Best of: Flusterclux In Session: How To Help A Rigid, Anxious Child B…

On this re-cast of a popular Season 5 "In Session" episode, Lynn talks to a mom who is beginning to recognize patterns of rigidity and anxiety in her 9yo daughter and, more importantly, the ways both she and her husband react...

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Jan. 3, 2025

How To Get Out Of Your Head and Stop Ruminating

Anxiously ruminating or worrying requires an internal focus: “But I’m worrying about my kids, or people I care about,” the worrier tries to argue. “I’m not focusing on myself!” Well, you are. You focus on your version of even...

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Dec. 27, 2024

Best of: We're Talking to Teens the Wrong Way About Their Mental Heal…

This is a juicy episode— and a really important one for all concerned about the mental health trends with our teens. After thirty-five years in the mental health field, Lynn addresses very directly her concerns about the mess...

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Dec. 20, 2024

Best of: How to Make More Fun For Your Family (Even When You Are Tapp…

Two (really) stressed gals show up for this episode to talk about injecting fun and playfulness into holiday events. Robin and Lynn share lots of ideas wrapped up in a little encouragement, and by the end, they both feel bett...

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Dec. 13, 2024

Families Can Be Judgy: A Holiday Survival Guide

Human beings are judgy creatures. It’s part of being social animals. But want to guarantee conflict during the holidays? Start judging other family member’s parenting. Too much sugar for your cousin’s toddler? The horror! Not...

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Dec. 6, 2024

Is Our Desire For Neatness Making Our Child Anxious About Being Messy?

On this episode we answer two listener questions: our first mom is trying to sort through her toddler's discomfort with anything “messy” and his demands to clean things up. Her family is concerned, and she wants to know what’...

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Nov. 29, 2024

Best of: Preparing for Difficult Relatives: A Holiday Survival Plan

Although the holidays can be special, the patterns that show up in people are predictable, even if it is Thanksgiving or Christmas. Critical parent? Passive aggressive sibling? Catastrophic you? In this episode, we talk about...

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Nov. 22, 2024

Porn: Understanding Its Impact on Today’s Teens with Author Cindy Pie…

Cindy Pierce returns, sharing her immense knowledge on pornography and its impact on young people. Get ready because we go there! Cindy talks directly about the disconnection, misinformation, and other serious consequences of...

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Nov. 15, 2024

An Interview with Cindy Pierce: Talking With Your Kids About Sex Like…

In the first of a two-part conversation, Cindy Pierce, social sexuality expert, speaker and author, is here to help parents talk to their kids about sex. Do we want to have these conversations? Probably not. Do they make us a...

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Nov. 8, 2024

Listener Question: Is It Anxiety Or Sensory Issues When My Kid Melts …

We answer a listener question in this episode from a mom who wonders if her young son’s rigidity is sensory-driven, an anxiety issue, or both. When do we accommodate and how do we promote more flexibility? When needing things...

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Nov. 1, 2024

If You Are An Anxious Parent, Are Your Kids Doomed?

If you’re anxious as a parent, are your kids doomed? Not necessarily, but there are risk factors you have to pay attention to and patterns to interrupt. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECI...

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Oct. 25, 2024

Parents & Clinicians: These 3 All-Too-Common Mistakes Are Not Helping…

Lynn had too little sleep and too much coffee, so she’s telling it like it is with Robin’s complete endorsement. What are the three things Lynn keeps hearing from parents and therapists that we need to stop doing? Buckle up f...

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Oct. 18, 2024

A Talk with Jessica Lahey: The Myths Surrounding Parenting and Alcohol

Our guest this episode is Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure and The Addiction Inoculation . Her goal is to provide straightforward facts to parents about kids and substance use. You know how much we love talking pr...

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Oct. 11, 2024

How to Use This Podcast to Manage the Anxiety In Your Family

Whether you are a new or veteran listener of the podcast, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson talk about how to use the podcast best to help learn anxiety management skills for adults and children. Listen up and hear how to address t...

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