Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

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Nov. 28, 2023

Helping Your Kids With The Skill Of Winning And Losing

Families will often avoid game night or other family competitions if a child has difficulty losing. Or they require the game to be “fixed” so the bad loser doesn’t lose. Games (and winning and losing) offer great opportunitie...

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Nov. 24, 2023

Best Of: What to Say To People Who Don't "Get" Anxiety

In this recast of a popular episode from last year, we tackle the statements our friends and families use when they're staying stuck in their anxiety patterns. If you hear them or use them, listen up. We have responses ready ...

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Nov. 17, 2023

Preparing for Difficult Relatives: A Holiday Survival Plan

Although the holidays can be special, the patterns that show up in people are predictable, even if it is Thanksgiving or Christmas. Critical parent? Passive aggressive sibling? Catastrophic you? In this episode, we talk about...

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Nov. 14, 2023

Handling Difficult News Headlines With Your Kids

Anxiety is about “what if,” but with the reality of violence and war, we are now living with “what is.” As parents, How do we process the ongoing news and graphic images of terror in our world? How do we help our children and...

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Nov. 10, 2023

Keeping Your Cool During the College Application Process: A Talk With…

Robin is up to her eyeballs in the college application process, so we pulled in two great people to help her and you: a school counselor on the front lines, and Jill Shulman, college admissions coach, author and sane person w...

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Nov. 3, 2023

Will My Child Grow Out Of This? Selective Mutism And Other Anxiety Be…

Knowing when you need professional help and when to let your child “grow out of it” is a tricky question…sometimes. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about when to allow some time and space (imaginary nephews) and when to ...

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Oct. 27, 2023

The 3 Patterns That Are Most Toxic In Adult Relationships

Helping people recognize and shift their own patterns is a key component of Lynn’s approach to emotional management. But there are three patterns that can really add discord in our personal relationships. Do you resist the ur...

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Oct. 20, 2023

When Your Child’s Bedtime Fears Are Frustrating the Whole Family

In this two-part In Session episode, Lynn talks to Marie, a mom from New Zealand whose very imaginative and worried daughter has dramatic fears which can be frustrating for the whole family. Marie has done a great job talking...

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Oct. 13, 2023

Helping Your Kids Navigate Social Media's Traps - A Talk With Expert …

Smart phones are here to stay. And so are the questions we parents have about social media, screen time, group chats…it’s overwhelming. In this episode, we speak with social media expert Devorah Heitner, author of the new boo...

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Oct. 6, 2023

After You Get Your Anxious Kid to School, How Do You Keep Them There?

Getting a worried child into school can be exhausting, but once there, we want them to stay! In this episode, we talk about keeping anxious kids in school, the need for a team approach that includes the school nurse, the dang...

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Sept. 29, 2023

How to Manage BIG Feelings: A Lesson for Kids & Adults

Teaching kids how to handle big emotions is an ongoing job for parents. But what happens when children become anxious about the possibility of feeling those emotions at all? Although it can be confusing for kids and parents, ...

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Sept. 22, 2023

A Talk on OCD with "Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents" co-author Reid Wil…

Our first-ever guest is Lynn’s pal and co-author Reid Wilson. Reid and Lynn met in 2007 and that meeting resulted in two books and a fast friendship. Join them as they talk anxiety, self-help, Reid’s brilliant OCD work and th...

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Sept. 15, 2023

What You Must Know About Kids And The New Data On Smart Phones

When smartphones first came on the scene, schools had rather strict policies about their presence and use. Over time, even though schools kept policies in place, most schools stopped enforcing them. The tide might be shifting...

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Sept. 8, 2023

The Good News About Middle School

As kids enter Middle School, their brains, bodies and relationships go through big changes. Parents tend to brace themselves for the roller coasters of this stage, but it’s also full of energy and discovery and fun. How can w...

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Sept. 1, 2023

Every Mom Thinks She Has ADHD Now. Do you?

It’s time for a brutally honest conversation about what moms are experiencing right now. Are we pathologizing the demands of our current parenting culture? If you are exhausted or disorganized or overwhelmed, is there somethi...

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Aug. 25, 2023

Best of: Helping Your Kids With Self-Hatred and Self-Blame

When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And how should parents react? In t...

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Aug. 18, 2023

Best of: How to Have a Successful Meeting with Your Child’s School

Helping an anxious student requires a strong collaboration between families and schools, but so often meetings to create a plan become adversarial. In this re-cast of a previous episode, Lynn (who routinely attends such meeti...

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Aug. 11, 2023

Off to College: Let's Talk About Roommates

Is your child heading off to college this fall? If it’s their first year, then the roommate uncertainty may be dominating your household. Sparked by a compelling listener question, we tackle the perks and the problems of room...

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Aug. 4, 2023

Best of: How Talking Less Will Improve Your Parenting

In this recast of a popular earlier episode, Lynn breaks down one of her favorite instructions to parents: talk 85% less. When parents are worried, they tend to talk a lot. When they want something done and their child isn't ...

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July 28, 2023

Use This Summer to Practice DIY Exposure Therapy

When children are hesitant or afraid of something, they often avoid, refuse, or even explode. The good news? You can work with your child on your own using the principles of exposure therapy, role playing and front loading. H...

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July 21, 2023

When Your Kid Is a Blamer

Lynn will tell you that there’s no harder adult to work with in her practice than someone who reflexively blames. The ability to own your part, take responsibility for your “stuff” is key to relationships. In this episode we ...

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July 14, 2023

Who Enjoys Kids' Birthday Parties? This Episode is Not For You

How do you feel about birthday parties? Is this just another place for parents to compete? Are they actually fun? One dad told us the whole industry needs an overhaul. We weigh in! REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THI...

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July 7, 2023

The Problem with People Pleasers

Being a “people pleaser” is often reinforced in our culture. Who doesn’t want to be seen as kind, unselfish, and giving? But this pattern has a dark side, resulting in resentment, avoidance, and exhaustion. In this episode, w...

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June 30, 2023

Best of: Dads, Depression and Anxiety

Today, we are re-sharing a Season 3 episode we consider one of our most important: Dads, Depression and Anxiety. So often, moms assume the role of supporting both a family’s health and mental health, but dads have a critical ...

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